BaysR4Me
169 posts
Aug 19, 2010
1:09 AM
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I never liked the owner of where my horse has been for the past 5 years, her berrating me in an email and making up stores about him, supposedly that he would take the wire fence in his mouth, with electric on, and pull it out of socket. She then said she never said it. But she took good care of my horse. Yet yesterday I went to the barn to find he was being given fed a package of hot dog buns, but her sister and her kids, not necessarily were they going to give the whole package, but I flipped. I shouldn't have but it was hot and my temper just went with the heat. I've asked her numerous times not to feed breads. So we had a couple more words and she says to get him out in 24 hours or she was going to "turn him loose." There a highway right out front with speeding cars, so this was not a nice thing to imagine. Her husband said 2 weeks to find another place, and he would not be let loose and no harm would come to him.
Anyway I was kicking myself for losing my temper but it's done, too late now. There's a pretty nice place that I spoke to the wife about. The husband is supposed to call back. They host team penning, kind of a fun place, indoor and outdoor arenas, lots of trails. So I hope it'll be a fun place for me and my horse.
So I guess the only way to think of it is, everything happens for a reason, even me blowing my top. But I did cry and pray about it, felt badly.
I just cannot have a barn owner going against my feeding rules, can't have it. No other barn before ever did it, they always fed properly.
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krystle09
330 posts
Aug 19, 2010
3:46 AM
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Good for you Bays,...its your horse and you are paying for him to be cared for as you want him to be.Sounds like you are leaving alot of stress behind with this one.
Remember,..doors never close just open.
Onto peace of mind.
Good luck and good for you!
Marcia
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LC
286 posts
Aug 19, 2010
3:57 AM
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A good friend of mine was 'asked to leave' our yard.
We have no idea why - the yard owner said he was going to be doing building work and her stable would be going, but this is total rubbish! She said herself that she never felt that he liked her personally since she arrived but never thought he would do that.
BUT the upshot of this is that she has moved to another absolutely fabulous yard and says he did her a huge favour. I'm green with envy about her new yard and if it was not so far away from where I live I would move my horse there and join her!
Good luck with your move.
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cckiger
558 posts
Aug 19, 2010
7:16 AM
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You are right-CAN'T have that. I don't think it's so bad you lost your temper. Sometimes people don't listen until you do. It's not worth the risk involved having your horse there anyway. It's too important what goes into that mouth. Things have a way of working out. Keep us posted!
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Meezer
689 posts
Aug 19, 2010
9:37 AM
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I remember you talking about having issues with this person about feeding your horse ever since you joined the board. She sounds like a bit of a loose cannon, to me, so this was bound to happen sooner or later. I'm sorry things had to get ugly, but it sounds like the new barn will be tons of fun. Maybe if Hunk likes cows you can try the team penning, I LOVE team penning (both to watch and participate in)!
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BaysR4Me
170 posts
Aug 19, 2010
9:38 AM
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Well I was beside myself with shame about losing my cool. But then I was telling Henry, (has AIDS), who I can just talk to about anything under the sun, what would I do without him, that just like you said "it had to be for a reason." Sure enough Ron from the ranch called back and will pick Hunk up Thursday morning (next week). I sometimes like a big baby close my eyes while they load my horse, it just gives me the heebee jeevees, but he never didn't load, just a teeny bit antsy, although he had a major fit in a slant load once, but he had been standing in the heat at a show and there was a mare he couldn't get to in the next trailer. Anyway, that's the only hurdle for me, but Ron has been team penning and doing it all for years and he'll handle it all. He's going to make the trailer open, but the slants back.
So I'll write again Thursday, hopefully breathing easy that Hunk is in his new stall!
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Ridin'On
9 posts
Aug 19, 2010
3:39 PM
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BaysR4Me, Your horse is depending on good judgment on your part when it comes to his care. Is sounds like you have it. Good Luck on his new home. Remember that there is usually some adjustment time for both you and your horse.
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runningwalk
94 posts
Aug 19, 2010
7:56 PM
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BaysR4Me: Don't beat yourself up on how you handled it. It sounds like you were at the end of your rope with how they chose to treat your horse even after you had put your foot down. I would never in a million years feed someone else's horse anything but a hand full of grass, unless I ASKED FIRST. I can't see bread as a good idea at any time for a horse. Some times people only listen is when you verbally beat them over the head. Then they realize they are the idiot, but it is easier to evict you than to admit they are at fault. I'm glad you found a nicer place, I'm sure you and Hunk will be much happier!
Kudo's for standing up for yourself and your horse
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BaysR4Me
171 posts
Aug 20, 2010
11:26 AM
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Thank you all. I once had a fit in Walmart because I got overheated and that was the case the other day. I'm just getting inordinately worried about the trailer loading. My brother who actually knows nothing about it said the right thing. "What's the worse that can happen?" I thought a minute and said "It'll take more time than I thought." And he said, "so your horse is not going to get hurt, it'll just take time, right?" So I'm calmer now. But I will be glad when it's over and done. And he's even a good loader. I really am more neurotic than any character you saw in a Woody Allen movie!!
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BaysR4Me
172 posts
Aug 20, 2010
12:46 PM
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I did today get a chance to explain to her about my going into a fit if I'm overheated. It's like I'm on amphetamines x 10. She understood and said I could bury him at her place one day if I needed to. Pretty darn decent I'd say. We agreed it's time for me to go though. So that's good. Feel better now.
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BaysR4Me
174 posts
Aug 20, 2010
1:27 PM
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But I will be glad to get away from her saying "he's getting up there" good grief. He's extremely fit for a 21yo! And I plan to take him to two shows next summer at the ancient age of 22.
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trina24
142 posts
Aug 21, 2010
9:18 AM
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Good luck Bays, I bet you will have a lot of fun at the new place it sounds exciting. Just be positive, I bet he'll load fine, just think he is going to do it, no question, he will pick up on your positive vibes.
Keeping everything crossed for you.
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krystle09
331 posts
Aug 21, 2010
9:55 AM
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Bays,
Vee is between 26 and 30 somewhere,...still running and bucking ,..looking great and having a ball being the domineering male over my much larger mare ( who thinks she is the size of an ant or still thinks he's a stallion LOL!...actually,..Vee thinks so too).
There are much better things to say right back at 'em about your horse's age
He is beautifully seasoned to perfection,...He does as he pleases because he has earned the right!...
I would take Vee over Krystle any day when it comes to wisdom,..he is very easy to love and THAT comes with age.
Here's to the senior horses,..lets raise a cup of coffee and toast them,..one and all! LOL!
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BaysR4Me
175 posts
Aug 21, 2010
2:02 PM
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Yes a nice cup of coffee to that!! He is fit as a fiddle and my vet said so!!
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BaysR4Me
178 posts
Aug 26, 2010
7:11 AM
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With my mother kind of failing, we don't know if she'll last til Christmas and with moving Hunk, I had to go the ER last night to get an Ativan. Can't stand that ER, they just shuffle along. Anway, Hunk loaded on like he was teaching a loading class at the worlds show. To my surprise!! The guy was very calming and that helped. Thanks you guys for getting me through this.
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trina24
144 posts
Aug 26, 2010
8:03 AM
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See!! Told you it would be ok!! So sorry to hear about your mum tho. Sending you lots of hugs
Last Edited on 26-Aug-2010 8:55 AM
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BaysR4Me
179 posts
Aug 26, 2010
11:34 AM
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Thanks trina, I'm just resting now.
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runningwalk
99 posts
Sep 01, 2010
7:01 AM
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BaysR4Me: How is your mom doing? I hope you are able to spend time with her. Not sure of the specifics of the situation so I wish you the best, in whatever capacity the best shall be.
How is the new barn for Hunk?
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BaysR4Me
181 posts
Sep 01, 2010
7:50 AM
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Hi runningwalk, I haven't been to barn since day my horse was moved, feeling too tired. Mom is stable, and sitting up and eating. I will ride my guy in about a week. Will let you know.
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runningwalk
100 posts
Sep 01, 2010
11:40 AM
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BaysR4Me: Treat yourself with kindness and patience. It's good to hear your mom is stable. It might be good for your mind to go out and see Hunk. Not with the intention of riding, just with the intention of brushing him and centering yourself. You know yourself better than anyone, so take care of yourself.
Wishing you the best, you're in my thoughts.
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BaysR4Me
182 posts
Sep 01, 2010
12:21 PM
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Thanks runningwalk, appreciate it. I can't wait to hug his neck.
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BaysR4Me
183 posts
Sep 04, 2010
10:54 AM
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He's with 3 other horses, seem to get along great in a ring with hay, no grass. He probably misses the grass. The other horses are in groups in the big fields that have grass. So if the owner isn't going to put him in the big fields right away, I'll ride him and then walk with him so he can eat some grass. I think he likes hay better. I don't know if he prefered the other place by himself the donkey and mini with all that space and grass or this place better, but I'm guessing the last place. I figured I would be a little upset about it. This means I'll have to ride him more and walk with him to eat grass. I can't read his mind. But he seems perfectly fine and has the three buddies to be with. Really looking forward to having a big dirt ring to ride in though. I'll let him run around in that too.
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trina24
146 posts
Sep 05, 2010
9:29 AM
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Hey Bays, am sure he's perfectly fine as you say, he has nice new friends to play with and if you have to ride him more, that's good! We have no grass here in France, it has all dried up in the drought, so hay is the only option on the menu!!
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BaysR4Me
185 posts
Sep 05, 2010
10:24 AM
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Oh my, I forgot about that drought, saw on the news earlier this summer and one a couple summers ago. I remember thinking "but what about all those fountains." Can't those Parisians just go to the fountains? I am really looking forward to riding, but have big electric bill to pay, so it'll be 3 weeks, have to get a few tack items. Also want to buy a little Ford wagon if it doesn't sell, another clunker but it has only 49K and was owned by a grandma!
I took 4 years of French but didn't take that well. We read "Le Petit Prince." A woman in my building is from France and she weaves rugs and does that most of her day and I love hearing her accent when she talks to my parrot and me on the porch.
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trina24
147 posts
Sep 06, 2010
10:13 AM
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Am afraid am English so no exotic accent!! Just live here! The Ford wagon sounds great, depends on the Grandma tho, she could have been a speedy one, even just doing 49k! I'm a Grandma, am not sure I would put that on a car I was selling tho! lol
Last Edited on 6-Sep-2010 10:14 AM
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BaysR4Me
186 posts
Sep 06, 2010
6:54 PM
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Right! LOL. Or maybe I'll just by a bike!
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